My sister's thoughts on designer genes, the Wizard of Oz (musical) and Lukas...

I'm importing this blog from my sister's, because, it's just well, read it. I don't know if it's because she's my sister, but I find myself being amazed by her character, her talents as a writer, amazing insights and way of looking at the world, day by day, and I've known her for a long time...

Her other entry(ies) may be found linked on the sidebar at "alithea."

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So there's something called the Consensus Theory of Truth, which states the following: "That which is universal among men carries the weight of truth." I was reminded of this after watching the musical "Wicked", a clever tale that reveals the untold story of the Wicked Witch and Glinda the Good from The Wizard of Oz. You learn from very early on in the show that the Wicked Witch was indeed not wicked. She had the misfortune of being born green, but was otherwise like any other girl - and surpassed her peers in her sense of justice, intelligence, and desire to do good. But as she found that authority was not on her side, she was branded as 'wicked' and the people of Oz were made to believe the most horrific things about her.

This idea of perception was a topic of conversation between me and Mark. Bad driving is something we encounter often. What really bothers us, however, is when someone else on the road seems to think that WE are the bad driver when we are clearly in the right and are, furthermore, a bad person - and unleashes an expletive or gesture of some kind to tell us so. Case in point: As I was driving up a local road, a white car started approaching me in reverse. I thought for sure the driver didn't see me, and decided that the best thing to do for both our sakes was to honk. Now most car horns sound the same, but that there are ways people put some emotion into them. If they're really mad, they plant the palm of their hand on horn and honk like it's going out of style. Mine was not one of those honks. It was, if you will, quite a friendly honk (I know you've thought about how to honk half-apologetically). So when she screeched next to me, stuck her head out of the window and called me the 5-letter word for a female dog, I was stunned. This woman had taken a benign honk and had translated it into a threat of some kind coming from "a malicious, unpleasant, selfish woman" (dictionary.com). I decided that she needed to be informed that her perception of what my honk meant was absolutely misguided. I put my car in reverse to get alongside hers, rolled down my window and got her attention.
"Excuse me, but I was honking because I didn't think you saw me, that's all."
She looked at me with a blank expression.
"Oh," she said with a shrug, and proceeded to get out of her car and walk away. A part of me was expecting an apology, but I wasn't surprised to not get one. I was satisfied enough to have enlightened her for just a moment. Perhaps I spared another well-intentioned honker the unwelcome verbal garbage that was tossed my way.

But there is another, ongoing experience with perception that lingers with me in a way that the first story doesn't. My son has an extra 21st chromosome. He has Trisomy 21, otherwise known as Down Syndrome. I know what my perceptions were about about people with Down Syndrome at the point of my son's diagnosis. I was prepared to learn the truths and myths, all the while keeping in mind that this boy was still half of me and half of my husband, just like any other baby. But what I wasn't prepared for were the heartfelt condolences I got from others as I shared the news. I was 19 weeks pregnant when I found out. I went through the grieving process, and eventually not only came to the point of acceptance, but of fully embracing what God had given me. But others had not. Their perceptions hung on what limited knowledge they had of Down Syndrome. There were people asking me why I didn't have an abortion, wondering out loud to me if my husband and I were 'compatible,' remarking how they knew someone who got the same diagnosis and how depressed they were. There was another group of responses that tagged us as saints, as if there were only a 'select' group of people that could possibly handle a child such as ours.

I knew they meant well, but here's the truth: no one who meets my son would dare apologize for who he is. He has a smile and laugh that is infectious. His mild temperament has - at least for a moment - been the envy of many moms whose children are raging to and fro, crying for no apparent reason. His eyebrows are shaped like those of a woman who just paid $50 to get hers waxed. Strangers who have no clue about his enhanced genes gawk at his beauty. He can give you the biggest ego boost if you decide to make a silly face. He loves to laugh, clap, dance, and cuddle. He loves to live.

Despite these truths, I know will continue to be pitied for who he is. What people have perceived about Down Syndrome has in large part come from what they have seen and heard. One might argue, 'Seeing is believing" or "Hearing is believing." But there are people who cannot see or cannot hear, yet have such strong faith.
Our perceptions cannot be simply based on body parts that we can live without: eyes, ears, hands. After all, there are plenty of people who can see but lead their lives as if they are blind. Our bodily senses cannot determine the worth of any life. Any meaningful experience that is initially taken in through our non-vital senses can only find its meaning in what is vital - our hearts, our minds. So I'll relish in my son's extra chromosome - 'designer genes' I like to call it. Because the truth is that anyone who encounters him cannot help but love him.

In my imagination I send my son into the Land of Oz, where senses prevail over the heart. Here comes that Down Syndrome baby, they might whisper. Just spend some time with at him, I tell the people. Allow the sheer delight of this child to enter in, and you'll learn to feel again.

Titles from the Top 500 Country Music Songs

I was trying to think of songs to add to Becky's list of songs with "red" in them and came across this list of country music songs on the net. Too funny not to share. I'm sure there are more where this came from. Please feel free to add on ones you know...I love this stuff.

I think my fav must be, "You've got the money, I've got the time," though "Six Pack Summer" is a close second.

127 "Lonesome On'ry and Mean" - Waylon Jennings
124 "Orange Blossom Special" - Johnny Cash
123 "Take This Job and Shove It" - Johnny Paycheck
121 "Chattahoochie" - Alan Jackson
120 "Rose Garden (aka I Never Promised You A Rose Garden)" - Lynn Anderson
119 "You Never Even Called Me By My Name" - David Allen Coe
118 "Why Don't Ya Love Me" - Hank Williams, Sr.
117 "Country Bumpkin" - Cal Smith
110 "If You've Got The Money, I've Got The Time" - Lefty Frizzell
107 "Are You Sure Hank Done It This Way?" - Waylon Jennings
106 "Lookin' At The World Through a Windshield" - Del Reeves
105 "A Thousand Miles From Nowhere" - Dwight Yoakam
104 "Walkin' After Midnight" - Patsy Cline
101 "Giddyup Go" - Red Sovine
498 "What's Forever For" - Michael Martin Murphey
497 "I Don't Call Him Daddy" - Doug Supernaw
496 "I Let Her Lie" - Daryle Singletary
495 "Little Red Rodeo" - Collin Raye
494 "If Bubba Can Dance (I Can Too)" - Shenandoah
487 "Old Enough To Know Better" - Wade Hayes
486 "Single White Female" - Chely Wright
484 "What Kind of Fool Do You Think I Am" - Lee Roy Parnell
483 "She'd Give Anything" - Boy Howdy
482 "I'm Not Strong Enough To Say No" - BlackHawk
481 "My Home's In Alabama" - Alabama
480 "Cowboy Take Me Away" - Dixie Chicks
479 "One Way Ticket" - LeAnn Rimes
478 "Pickup Man" - Joe Diffie
477 "Born To Fly" - Sara Evans
476 "Every Which Way But Loose" - Eddie Rabbitt
475 "Love a Little Stronger" - Diamond Rio
474 "Not On Your Love" - Jeff Carson
469 "My Strongest Weakness" - Wynonna
468 "Six Pack Summer" - Phil Vassar
467 "Someone Else's Star" - Bryan White
466 "A Little Less Talk" - Toby Keith
464 "Prayin' For Daylight" - Rascal Flatts
463 "Smoke Rings in the Dark" - Gary Allan
462 "Carlene" - Phil Vassar
461 "Drive South" - Suzy Bogguss
460 "Who Needs Pictures" - Brad Paisley
459 "Fishin' In The Dark" - Nitty Gritty Dirt Band
456 "You're the Reason God Made Oklahoma" - David Frizzell & Shelly West

Lukas's roadtrip

Can you tell why these are two of my favorite people in the world?

(sister and nephew)